Monday, October 28, 2013

Cleaning Up


"I've been getting rid of some clutter--anything that doesn't serve a positive purpose in my life- and making room for things that feel happy to me.  Because I get to make my life whatever I want it to be. I get to make the room feel however I want it to feel.  I get to make the closet as full or as spacious as I want it." Jan Denise
 
I heard from a number of you after last week's blog.  Evidently many of us are finding the external physical stuff in our life is causing internal strife ....I even heard that some of you were inspired and actually began cleaning out some spaces. Others said you were getting ready to make the move! 
 
But as with all goals, it takes more than good intentions to get the job done, it often takes a plan. My sister, an organizational guru, once told me that before I clean my closet I need to visualize what I want it to look like when I’m done. It's like Jan Denise says, in our quote for the day, 'I get to make the room feel however I want it to feel'. Sounds to me like our 'Passion Test' activity of visualizing our ideal life, doesn’t it?


This week as I emptied out my messy closet, I came up with a methodical plan …. I took everything out and laid it on one of three piles on my bed.  The 1st pile was for what was new, or what I really wanted to keep, the second pile was what I wanted to get rid of, and the 3rd pile was the 'maybe,  I’ll  think about it later' pile. 
After I took all the clothes and shoes out, I just went and stood in the empty space.  Jan Denise's words echoed off the bare walls 'I can make this closet as full or as spacious as I want to'. Once I scrubbed down the shelves, and vacuumed up the carpet underneath, I then hung the 1st pile of things I wanted back in the closet.  Wow it looked awesome! (almost like I visualized it).  It was a sight to behold: all the things in there fit me, I like them, and I will wear them!  Now there’s a novel idea for clothes hanging in a closet. A space full of things that make me feel happy!
 
 I took the second pile (my get rid of pile) and placed those items into large boxes.  Then, I took the third pile and re-divided it into four piles: get rid of it, put back in closet, pack it away, or move to another closet. Since I was already loving the less cluttered look,  I only ended up putting a few more things back in my closet. And I filled up another 'give away' box.  The whole closet cleaning activity took only a few hours and I’m so pleased with what I ended up with…. And the Salvation Army was thrilled to receive the 4 big boxes of clothes.  It reminded me of how freeing it is to get rid of the old….Now I have made room for the new!
 
I hope you have joined in on the fun? I’m now motivated to move to another space in my home, even if it’s just something small. Remember to first visualize how you want it to look, create a plan, and then feel the power of getting rid of the old and creating a life that is what you want it to be….full of things that feel happy to you.

I came across this lady, Myda Muckala, on Youtube.  She shares about the connection between her emotional and physical clutter, and the link to the idea of 'The Law of Attraction': You draw into your life what you give attention to.  
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gklgHKQKHpc

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Monday, October 21, 2013

Get Rid of the Old

"Get rid of the old, to make room for the new"

I have a mantra resonating in my mind this week; it came from the book The Passion Test.  The authors tell us we must first 'get rid of the old, in order for the new to come our way'.   Why is it, do you think, that we cling to the old, even when it’s not working for us?  It's a bit like the saying: the definition of insanity is doing the same thing you've always done, and expecting different results.  But in this case it's; keeping the same things you've always kept and expecting new results.

…I’ve been eyeing my overflowing, crammed full, messy closet.  And every time I stick my head in there to get something to wear…the passion fairy’s voice echoes…”get rid of the old.”  Could it be that a great way to make progress in creating my ideal life, is to begin with my physical environment?

Since starting my blog, I’ve made some long term health changes in my life which resulted in losing weight and a couple of clothes sizes. As you may have already surmised by now,  I tilt the scale between frugal and cheap, so instead of getting rid of all my clothes that got too big,  I thought I’d just have the pants altered… That way I’d save money and still have plenty of clothes to wear to work.

….So, I kept the old, and then gradually added a few new things.  As I began buying the size that actually fit me, I realized the altering technique I had used was making me look a tad frumpy in my old clothes.  As my deceased mother-in-law would say…, “Your saggy butt clothes make it look like a family moved in down there.”

This fall I received several gift certificates for my birthday so I decided it was time to replenish some of my wardrobe.  As I bought my new clothes, I stuffed those purchases into an already full closet of mostly old stuff.

It reminds me of many of our lives.  We come across a new idea, like finding our passion, and we try and cram it into our already cluttered up life and wonder why it doesn't fit into what’s already there. It's because we're not willing to let any old ideas go.  That doesn’t exactly set you free, if you know what I mean.  We cling to those old clothes or those old ideas, even if they don’t fit, or if they’re not really working for us anymore. 

Why would we do that?    Because you never know when you’ll need them?  What if I gain the weight back?  What if I get rid of those old comfy clothes, and I don’t really like the new stuff?  What if shoulder pads are coming back into fashion?  What if I need to make a quilt and I don’t have money to buy any material?  It's silly isn't it, and really all about that 'ole security thing'…  It’s the same reasons we don’t take the leap and go after our passions. 

I'm thinking that it might be helpful to observe our own external habits of hanging on to the old and letting stuff continue to pile up.  Do we do the same thing internally as well: pile up old feelings, to-do lists, resentments, judgments, old fashioned comfortable ways of thinking?  If so, we are not letting our minds change or evolve or grasp this new idea of letting go to make room for the new. So if you're stuck making progress towards your ideal life, then lets begin with some of material stuff we keep.  Let's teach our minds to start letting go of old things that are keeping us from having the kind of life we dream of.

I came across this YouTube video and it gave me a chuckle.  It reminds me I'm not alone in having trouble getting rid of the old and although I have good intentions; it's only productive if I follow them with action.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tr4L_8yDE3c
 
Join me this week and find a drawer, a closet, or a shed that is full of ‘old stuff’ that has lost its usefulness, it beauty, its ability to bring us joy, and get rid of it.

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Monday, October 14, 2013

Will You Make the Leap?

"Leap and the Net Will Appear" Julie Cameron

Have you answered Scott Walker's question that was posed to you last week...."What will you do with your precious life?" It is precious, you know...Are you taking action, and pursuing your passion?  Do you feel you are making progress?

If you're like me, then you love hearing real life stories of 'the law of attraction' and how when a person steps out and lets his needs be known to the world, then God and the universe open up and gives you what you ask for. Like when  the Pastor Scott Walker, took a leap of faith, without a clear business or financial plan, and resigned from the ministry in order to pursue his passion. The very next morning he was contacted by a friend, willing to help meet his financial needs, enabling Walker to pursue his dream. 

And although stories like that might inspire us, and motivate us....do you feel that those kind of miraculous events only happen to others...and not to you? And if it doesn't happen to us....is there something we can surmise from that? Perhaps, it's because we're not willing to take that leap?

I think the thing that stayed with me the most after reading about his story was the fact that Walker  resigned his position first, before he came up with a plan...That is truly a leap of faith isn't it?  'Get rid of the old, to make room for the new'.  That's what the authors of The Passion Test tell us we need to do...get rid of the old.....but's that's scarey!  What if I get rid of the old and then there is no better 'new' in its place?  What if I give up my old job in search of a new one and there is no new job? What if I retire, to make more time for my passion and I don't like retirement? What if I use my financial assets to pour into my passion and the plan falls flat on its face. And mom's old adage 'the grass is always greener on the other side", disguised in wisdom and practicality, echoes inside our closed doors, the doors we don't dare to throw open....after all Mom reminds us, "you never know what lies on the other side of that fence?"

Too risky you say? So, we instead choose security, over opportunity, over possibilty, over our passion...because it's a leap we're not willing to make...right? After all, my life isn't all that bad...just talk to others and you see we're doing alright for ourselves.   I should just be happy with what I've been given...don't act like a spoiled child always wanting more...asking for the moon....

Oh spoilers that we are... growing tiresome of reading about passions and ideal lifes and dreams coming true ... it only raises our hope for a bit, and then that need for security hangs heavy and lingers...

Perhaps that's what divides us ...our need for security... So instead we have chosen to settle, while those dream catchers are willing to take the leap, in search of greener grasses, risking the danger of meeting the charging mad bull on the other side.

So here is the question I'd like you to consider this week.  Am you willing to take your precious life and make the leap?
 
Read about a couple who did just that:
http://www.charlotteobserver.com/2013/07/21/4179892/seeking-a-change-lincoln-county.html

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Monday, October 7, 2013

Our Precious Life

"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild
and precious life?" Mary Oliver
My dear friend gave me a Guidepost Devotional for Christmas. This year’s theme is 'Giving Thanks'. 52 writers are involved in writing 52 daily devotions to lead their readers through another year of faith.  For the most part, the writers have their devotionals sprinkled throughout the book.  But on a few occasions they have one individual, writing throughout the entire week.  Now why would it surprise me that I come across an entire week of devotions written by, Scott Walker, a Pastor of thirty-some years, seeking to follow his passion?

I would prefer to gently tear the 7 pages of devotionals out, scan them and send them to you, but alas, I’ve decided to summarize them instead.

Scott Walker shares an internal career struggle with his readers.  Should he continue to finish out his life-long commitment in the ministry all the way into retirement, or instead should he listen to a voice beckoning him towards what he calls a’ far-fetched dream’ that he and his wife had wistfully shared. One of his daily devotionals ends with this prayer, “Father, help me to listen to my life and pay attention.”

As Walker works through his monumental decision, he writes of stumbling across the advice of one of his favorite authors and minister. Frederick Buechner.  “Don’t be compelled to do what you should do, ought to do, must do, have to do, don’t want to do". Buechner says, " Rather, get in touch with your great gladness and be free to go do it. ….The place God calls you to be is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s great hunger meet.”

 “This last short sentence," writes Walker,"grasped me and set me free.  At age fifty-seven, I knew that my deep gladness was to work with young adults....and help these precious lives discover their sense of purpose and vocational dreams."

 As you might guess, discovering your passion is one thing…. walking away from a calling in the ministry because of it, is quite another.  Walker continued to be in turmoil about his decision, and his weeks’ worth of devotions walks the reader through a whirl wind of the writer’s emotions.  He recalls the wonderful memories that emerge while perparing for and preaching his final sermon at a church he had loved and served for 15 years.  He shares his doubts and his prayers and God’s word that led him through the tunnel he must walk.  He writes of challenges that lay in front of him as he pursues his dream and his passion, with little money, and no job. 

Walker recalls once reading the book, What Color is Your Parachute. Its author, Richard Bolles words suddenly had new meaning, “Take a good look at yourself, define what brings you great gladness, and write your own proposal and job description.  Then go find someone who needs your skills and believes in your dream.”

And this is exactly was Robert Walker did as he penned out his vision of his dream and wrote a proposal to two different Universities, requesting to make his passion become a reality.  One University expressed interest, but said Walker would first need to get the funds to start it.

“The day after I resigned as pastor, Walker writes, I woke up early in a cold panic.  My next task was to raise funds to start an ‘Institute of Life Purpose’.  As I squirmed and pondered my dilemma, the phone rang. “   It was an unexpected call from a friend who had not yet heard about his resignation. He met with his friend and told his story and shared his dream.  His friend’s response, “That sounds like a worthy cause and a wonderful idea.  I would like to help you do this.”   

Walker was blown away! “I had nothing to do with the phone ringing that morning.  I never would have initiated the conversation.  But God had a way of saying, “You can do this! I am working with you.”

 As the weeks of devotionals end, Walker borrows the words from a poem by Mary Oliver and asks this question to all of us,” Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

“Sometimes a singer has only one song,” concludes Walker, “a preacher one sermon, a writer one book and a prophet one vision.  Life is drawn into narrow and intense focus.  Now I know that my one question for each person I meet is, “What is your dream for your one precious life?’ Each answer will shape the course of history.”

Because an individual listened to a voice beckoning him to follow his passion, the dream that Dr. Scott Walker and his wife once had, is now a reality. The ‘Life Purpose Institute’, continues on today, at Mercer University, lighting a fire of passion in the young people it serves.

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